It's impossible not notice the differences in their abilities. But later that night I shared with my husband that I have come to the conclusion that there is much more to consider than abilities. (Even though as children are developing, abilities are what parents tend to focus on).
But Nate is different from Cade in a lot of ways that have nothing to do with Ds, but everything to do with his personality. I have to be careful to not just put everything I see into the "Ds basket." Nate is so much more than Ds....and I want everyone who reads this who might have a tendency to do the same thing to just be aware of it, and take the time to enjoy your child's personality for exactly what it is...wonderful! Nate loves to communicate using eye contact...he is very demonstrative with his hands and facial features. He is not very fussy. He loves to be held and to cuddle (and not every baby does at this age!) and there is so much more! These are all traits of his wonderful personality, and because another child of Nate's age may not do these same things doesn't mean it has anything to do with Ds!